Do not wait; the time will never be “just right.” Start where you stand, and work with whatever tools you may have at your command, and better tools will be found as you go along.
Live aligned with what is, so that nothing you do is a means to an end, but is the end itself… be fully in the doing of what you are doing.
Do not dwell in the past, do not dream of the future, concentrate the mind on the present moment.
I had an epiphany this morning, while cooking breakfast and doing a few chores. I put some toast in the toaster and was whisking an egg to scramble and just watching the fork swirl the yolk and the white together — not thinking about anything, but aware of all my actions, the colors of the egg blending, the sound of the fork scraping the glass. Then, while the toast was finishing up, I put the fork down and walked down the hall to put some clothes in the dryer. I noticed my slippers schlepping across the wood floor — slap, slide, slap, slide — and then it hit me: being aware doesn’t have to be hard. There’s no effort involved! What’s hard is just remembering to be attentive.
This may seem like a little thing. Like it’s obvious, or no big deal. But to me, it was quite an epiphany. I’ve probably had the same epiphany in the past (in fact, I may have even written on this blog about it)… but I don’t remember. And so it was new to me, and I enjoyed it very much!
My granddaughter is a happy kid. She has more energy than the sun and shines just as brightly in my world. Her parents have done a fabulous job of raising her to be confident, capable, loving and a joy to be around (most of the time… she is, after all, a five year old). She is highly intelligent and quite a thinker and problem-solver already. I look forward to enjoying her presence in my life and plan to continue influencing her to be attentive to her own inner body, the beauty that surrounds her and the quiet peace that is always available to her — that IS her.
When the going gets tough, the tough get going.
~Joseph P. Kennedy
I got to thinking about that statement this morning, wondering what it means. Upon reflection I can see the truth of that in tough situations that require action (“going”). For example, when someone takes immediate initiative in a crisis, providing quick and clear direction to others, or when some average guy can suddenly lift up a car or move a huge chunk of concrete to free a trapped person. I beleive that is the power of ‘presence’ at work, where the mind really doesn’t have time to think and figure out what to do, and so whatever it is that is beyond mind (consciousness) simply takes over and guides a person to take appropriate action without thought.
But what about tough situations where “going” isn’t really the appropriate answer? Where action isn’t required, at least initially…
I believe surrender is the answer, as Eckhart Tolle and Byron Katie suggest. Acceptance of what is, and then from within that the ‘space’ to wait for and allow the appropriate answer (or action) to arise. I have sometimes wondered if surrender is the same as resignation, but I am finding that there is a distinct difference between resignation and surrender–at lesat for me. The former feels like giving up and the latter feels more like giving in.
To me, giving up means that you cease efforts to accomplish something; I envision sort of turning away from the challenge in frustration, despair or resignation. Giving in, on the other hand, implies that there is another to whom you are acceding or acquiescing, or rules or circumstances to which you are (perhaps after initial resistence) accepting, without a fight or internal struggle.
So to me, giving in is accepting what is. I believe that results in a quiet, calm expectancy that is without anxiety. And from within that expectancy action arises (if action is required).
The mind creates those things that exist.
~Terry Tempest Williams
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